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Some Common Myths About Bullying 

Bullying is an anti-social behavior that is found in societies the world over.  The bully and their victims can be children or adults.   In some cases, the bully may be a child and their target an adult.

Bullying is aggressive behavior that is harmful and uncool!

Bullying Myth 1 Bullying Myth 1

Some people think that childhood bullying is simply a stage of growing up and should be accepted or tolerated as a normal part of one’s journey in life.  On the contrary, bullying is an aggressive expression of loathing or contempt for others that is socially unacceptable and should not be considered “the norm”.   To just sit back and accept bullying without doing something about it is the same as acquiescing to, or even encouraging, such behaviour.   This clearly sends the wrong signal to the perpetrators, victims, bystanders and the community at large.

Bullying Myth 2 Bullying Myth 2

There are those who subscribe to the view that the bullying victim should "match fire with fire" and retaliate when set upon.   There may be times when defending one’s self can be forced upon us.   However, experience suggests that mindlessly hitting back at the bully can make the situation worse.   By doing so the victim may put themselves in harm’s way and risk serious injury.

Bullying Myth 3 Bullying Myth 3

Another myth that seems to do the rounds is that, in the case of children, bullying is a problem that the school system and teachers alone should fix.  The fact is that bullying can be a more embedded social issue that is not just found in schools but one that pervades broader society.   Bullying can occur in various settings such as on the streets, at the community pool, in organised sport, at the mall, in the home, the workplace – in fact anywhere that strong feelings of loathing or hostility are directed toward someone considered to be worthless, inferior or undeserving of respect.

Bullying Myth 4 Bullying Myth 4

Aren't all bullies just born that way?   Bullying behaviour is often times a learned behaviour.   This means that people are not usually born to be bullies.   Education, taking responsibility for one’s actions and retraining is possible.

Bullying Myth 5 Bullying Myth 5

Many children targeted by bullies don't think speaking out about it will do any good.   Victims of bullying are often afraid of speaking out about the problem for fear of reprisals and the mistaken belief that adult intervention won’t do anything.   However, research indicates that bullying will subside or stop when adults in authority and peers are proactively involved in helping to resolve issues.

Help To Deal With Bullying 

To bring about real lasting change in combating bullying, we need to create a mindset, culture and environment where everyone understands that bullying is unacceptable, harmful, preventable and will not be tolerated.  In doing so, all of us must take collective and individual responsibility for stopping it.

Combating bullying entails shifting our mindset, culture and environment.This website has been created to heighten awareness of bullying and its impact upon victims, bystanders, the perpetrators, families and our broader community, and to offer strategies and solutions to help stamp out this most insidious social problem.

Here, you'll find lots of information about bullying.   What it is, how it's caused, who is impacted by it, demographics, consequences, prevention, solutions, resources and more.   Simply navigate your way around the site by clicking on the tabs at the top of the page.

The About Bullying tab explains the what, where, how and why of bullying.

The Anti Bullying Solutions tab is choc full of information and links to a wide variety of products & services developed by experts in the field that when applied can help you and others better deal with bullies, bullying and the impact upon victims and their families.

The Anti Bullying Store tab takes you straight to our online shop full of comprehensive information and advice to help stop the bullies in their tracks.

The Other Anti Bullying Resources tab provides contact details of various international organisations and bodies providing information, advice and support to bullying victims, their families, carers, role models and other community leaders.

If you’ve been bullied, know someone close to you who’s been bullied or have been impacted by bullying in some way, why not do your bit to help create a bully-free environment for all of us.   Take action today and stamp out the bullying in your life.

 

 

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Don't Let Bullies Intimidate You!

Sadly, children who are victims of bullying may show signs of depression, such as sadness, loneliness, loss of interest in activities and fearfulness.   Victims will often keep their problems to themselves as they inwardly attempt to resolve the situation on their own.   They can show anxiety and worry about the bully’s next moves or other children’s reactions such as disapproval.   They often times believe that adults (including parents, teachers, principals, coaches etc) can’t do much to help them and turn the situation around.   In their minds they feel like they have to “go it alone” and “sort it themselves”. 

Bullies as well as their victims are hurt from the experience.But it doesn’t have to be like that.   Children can learn that they are not alone in being bullied, teased and taunted.   Being bullied and harassed is not the victim’s fault nor should they be expected to endure it.   Victimisation is just plain wrong.   Bullying is an attitudinal and behavioural problem that the bully has to acknowledge, come to terms with and rectify.   This means the bully must be made to recognise and concede their actions are inappropriate and accept help to modify their feelings and resultant behaviour.

Although not often talked about, the person doing the bullying, as well as those who watch it happen, are also hurt from the experience.   This is because they become ever increasingly emotionally removed from the suffering of their victims.   This may serve to reinforce the belief that the best way to get what they want from others is through using intimidation, coercion and brute force.   If the instigator’s behaviour is left uncorrected, it can lead to intergenerational problems down the track as they are more inclined to let their own offspring bully others and, in the process, sowing the seeds for a new generation of bullies.

Children and adults can do something positive about bullying.   They don’t have to put up with it and live in constant daily fear of their safety, security and wellbeing.

Children look to grown ups for help in resolving problems or to confide in. They are therefore in a unique position to help them find the right pathways in navigating the ups and downs of their changing and sometimes uncertain social world.

Parents as well as other community members such as:

  • teachers
  • student counselors
  • carers working in out of hours school care, child care programs, youth groups and camps
  • church leaders
  • sports coaches & managers
  • other respected community members

can all play active and vital roles in preventing bullying.

Being on the front lines affords a rare opportunity to see bullying when it occurs and to establish the rules of conduct, environment and culture needed to “nip it in the bud”, cut off opportunities for it to flourish and prevent its recurrence.

You Don't Have To Take Bullying Lying Down

Unlike this chump, you don't have to take bullying lying down!   Don't cower to bullies. Take an assertive stand by sending a clear message you won't be intimmidated.Check out the publications shown in the Amazon carousel below for some sound advice on standing up to bullies and taking charge. 

 

 

 

 

  

 

 

   

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